I need to just do this post and break this block I’ve had.
I’m going to stop feeding my blog across to LJ. Anyone wishing to continue reading my blog is more than welcome to come and visit, or rss feed it; the address is gypsyamber dot electrickinetic dot com
A few different reasons for doing this. I have been battling with how I want my blog to look, and what is polite in LJ-Land (ie. photos and long posts behind cuts). Also my reason for blogging has changed. Originally I started as a way of keeping in contact with friends whilst I was off adventuring in other lands. Tales to entertain and amuse. Now I am off adventuring in uncharted (for me) territories, but it is a far more personal adventure with narrower appeal for a general audience. I blog mainly for myself, so that I don’t lose these moments in the months and years to come. I choose to do this in a public forum, rather than a private, off-line journal because I personally enjoy reading other people’s blogs about their experiences in parenting and I want to share my experiences with anyone who is interested.
I was recently reminded (by someone confusing my FB updates with my blog updates) that LJ feeds work rather like FB feeds. On my FB, I deliberately limit my bub/parenting related updates as it goes to a broad audience and I don’t want to be “that” mum – the one that won’t shut up about her child and her life around her child, who has nothing else to talk about, who provides minute details which are not interesting to the majority of her friends list. My blog however is different. My blog is more private, more for me and thus it is currently, unashamedly about my son and this gig called parenting about 99.9% of the time. This is where I’m at right now. My life is about my family and that’s what I want it to be about. This is just a short time in the scheme of things and I want to make the most of it, including recording things so that I can look back on these years and share them with my grown children when they start asking questions (*if* they start asking questions about their childhood!)
Now I could just say that people on LJ can unfriend me if they’re not enjoying my blog, but since a particular conversation I have been frozen, wondering how many other people reading my LJ feed are thinking the same thing about me (She’s THAT mum. I wish she would just shut up already about her baby. Can’t she talk about anything else). Stupid, illogical…but there. Add that to the stylistic concerns I’ve been having with competing desires (I want my blog to look like this, but I should do that because it’s polite in LJ-Land) and it feels like it’s time to make a break from LJ.
I’ll still visit to read the blogs that I can’t feed to my google reader, but it’s time for me to move on.
And now I can hopefully shake off this freeze and resume blogging.
Absolutely understandable – I have a WordPress that I keep completely separate, which is where I talked a lot more about my pregnancy (it’s been pretty fallow since then). I’ll add you to my blog subscriptions so I don’t miss a post!
FWIW – You are not that mum, and I would prefer you kept feeding your blog to LJ because that is easiest for me. But of course – your blog, your rules.
Wot she said. 🙂 Also, if you’re locking off lj, could you give me the rss feed url (I couldn’t figure it out from this site) so that I can make an lj syndicated feed? xoxo
I third that, love your blogs, loved them before I became a mum too, sorry to hear that someone has made you feel uncomfortable about baring your soul, that is seriously uncool. hugs oxoxoxo
What they said above, please keep feeding to LJ.
What you are experiencing is yet another one of the hurdles i have discovered. I only ever heard one complaint about me being too much mummy on LJ, so I dropped them from my baby filter so they only saw posts which didn’t mention the children – they then complained to someone that I had snubbed them. Whatever. It irks me that anyone would have issue with the content of *someone else’s* blog. If my friends wish to talk about role-playing or car-racing or other things that I’m not hugely in to, big deal, I can pick and choose what I read yes?
As you correctly point out, it’s only for a short while and at the moment it *is* what your life is about, and yeah, to be bloody honest it is frickin’ awesome, eye-opening and amazing (as well as frustrating, etc), and over way too quickly so of course you want to keep a record of it. It is no different to other people jumping online to talk about their day at work. The point of view that children should be seen and not heard – or not heard about – is both frustrating and confusing to me.
Okay – I think I’ve worked out a way to cross-post, but only to the people who have commented here. I can’t work out a rss link to supply yet (I usually just type a blog url into Google reader to keep track of blogs I like, so not familiar with the setting up of feeds)
Fair warning though: I won’t be putting any cuts in posts that are photo heavy or very long-winded 😉 If this is annoying on anyone’s feed, let me know and I’ll make sure you don’t automatically get them 🙂
And thanks for the support.
brilliant, thanks 🙂 no need for cuts for me, I will always look and read everything anyway and love the photos!