I have not been keeping track of new developments and funny stories as much as I intended to; a fact highlighted whenever I try and remember when Monsieur started doing x, y or z. It’s time for a little snapshot of where he’s at. I have been reading various parenting blogs and I really like the way that Iliska Dreams blogs a monthly update on her son. Clearly I’m not going to be doing a monthly update, yet, but I am going to borrow the format for now…
Monsieur is now 30-ahem-something months old now…I stopped keeping track of months after he turned two. He was two years old for a while, and now he is two and a half. And a bit more! I’m going to start with the most exciting thing.
Sleep.
Monsieur’s sleep is fantastic. He still naps every day, anything from 2-3 hours, occasionally 3 1/2 hours. Even if he wakes after 4pm, he’ll be ready for bed by 7. He wakes sometime between 6 and 7am – still an early riser but anything after 6am is fine by us! He loves his sleep and will sometimes smile as he lays down in bed and say “I’m so tired!”. Of course any time we ask if he’s tired, he will reply emphatically that he is not tired. Four nights ago we took the side off his cot and so far *touch wood* have not experienced any disturbances or change in sleep patterns. He loves being able to climb into bed all by himself, and he waits in bed until we come in to the room to get him up. He was a little disappointed that his new bed was, in his words “a teeny, tiny, little bed” and not the big bed he was expecting, but he has adjusted quite happily. Hopefully it will last a couple more years before we need to convert it to a full size single bed, as at that stage something else in his room will have to be removed, most likely his beloved train table.
Eating.
Not really much to say on this except that he loves to eat. He continues to love zucchini, and bananas, and yoghurt. He monopolises all berries that enter the house. He loves coconut water and green smoothies and everything that Grandma and Nanny make for him. He has worked out that each house stocks different yoghurt, so will ask for Grandad’s yoghurt (Jalna vanilla) or Nanny’s yoghurt (Dairy Farmer’s Lemon Cream) or Mummy’s yoghurt (Gippsland Passionfruit – bought once, remembered forever!). Zac’s yoghurt is Jalna Organic (yellow lid!) or the organic yoghurt from Local Organics. I am thrilled that even after tasting flavoured yoghurt, he still loves plain yoghurt. We have started getting our veggies, dairy and eggs from a local co-operative that source nearly everything from Victorian farmers. The produce is delicious, extremely well-priced and there is such a lovely community feel to the hub where we pick up our order. There will often be things on offer to taste and Marcus will sit down with Monsieur and offer him a taste of whatever is going. I love watching his delight in sharing food with others.
Growth and Appearance.
Monsieur has grown so much this year. He is now in size 3/4 tops and size 2 pants – long torso! We measured him when he was two and half and in the six months since his birthday, he’d grown again as much as he grew between his first and second birthday. He still has deliciously round cheeks, but the rest of him is getting leaner. He is growing taller and longer but has remained around the 16kg mark for almost the whole year. He has such mischievous expressions, and such a bright sunny smile. He has definitely inherited my concentration face, but I shall refrain from trying to train it out of him. My mum tried for years to no avail so I already know that it’s a lost cause. He loves looking at himself in the mirror, and practising his expressions. We bought a small Ikea mirror for his room, but he still prefers to climb onto the stool and look at himself in the bathroom mirror.
Talking.
Monsieur weaves little stories together now, telling us about his day, or his dreams, or what his trains are doing. About a month ago, when R asked Monsieur what he’d done that day, Monsieur was able to tell him everything that we had done that day. I think that was really the start of proper conversations, conversations which don’t require an adult to step in and translate or add detail in order for it to be understood. He takes great delight in the patterns and form of conversation, always asking R in a sing-song voice “How was your day?”, or asking me in the morning “How did you sleep?”. If we forget to give the appropriate response, such as a “You’re welcome” to his “Thank you”, he will prompt us. He will also do complete exchanges all by himself, the latest being a couple of days ago: I sighed and Monsieur supplied the conversation he expected from my sigh, “You look tired, sweetie” “I’m NOT tired”. He will also give himself warnings or tell himself off, “Be careful, Z!” or “No climbing on the table!” said, of course, as he is climbing on the table.
He is constantly asking what letter words start with, in the format, “What letter for — ?”. So we get “What letter for spoon? What letter for fork? What letter for plate?” at mealtimes and plenty more questions throughout the day.
We haven’t reached the “Why?” stage yet, but we’ve definitely reached the precursor: “What sort of — ?”. “What sort of purple?” “What sort of friend?” “What sort of toilet?” and so on. It doesn’t matter whether the item/action in question can be divided into “sorts of”, we still need to give an answer.
Development.
Sometimes it feels like there are constant developmental leaps going on. I guess that’s what childhood is, really. At least once a month, R and I will look at each other and say “Did he just….?”, “Did I just hear/see right”? It might be for a quirky new way of saying something, “Oh, I’m just okay playing here” or it may be him suddenly being able to do something by himself, such as strapping himself into his stroller. Sometimes it is something completely out of the blue – like last month when he asked me to leave the room during my weekly skype call with a friend so that he could talk with her by himself!
Last week he was chuffed because he could suddenly climb the ladders at the big playground, thus opening up whole new sections of play equipment for exploration.
He is now quite helpful in our morning routine. We can hand a carton of eggs and bowl to him, tell him how many eggs we need and he will crack the eggs required into the bowl. It can get a little messy sometimes, but not much more than how messily I can crack eggs.
He is pushing boundaries more and testing us to see if we mean what we say. We can see the thoughts going across his face of “Do they really mean that? Huh. I guess they do” and it alternates between being quite comical and downright frustrating, depending on the circumstances.
This past month he’s also been hyper aware of where I am at all times and quite desperate to not lose sight of me. “Come with Mummy?” is one of the most common phrases I hear during the day, any time I mention what I’m about to do or where (in the house) I am about to go. We have discovered, quite by accident, that his desire to remain physically close to me is a powerful motivator. A couple of days ago I was sick of the battle of wills that was going nowhere, so elected to leave the room rather than continue. That got his attention in a way nothing else had managed and he packed up his toys so that we could play with cars together.
Favourites.
Cars and trains and books remain the favourites. Every morning he will ask “Play trains together?” or “Play cars together?” to whoever walks in to his room first. He loves weekends when the answer is yes. R gave him a little case which he promptly filled with trains. This is now his little travel case that he takes out. He also loves YouTube clips of trains. I am eternally grateful to the people whose hobby it is to film trains and pop the video online. These clips are our go-to “TV” watching. He has discovered the set of original Railway Series books that we gave him for his second birthday – the series which Thomas the Tank Engine is based on. The individual little books are quite long, compared to the new versions, but Monsieur happily listens to two or more of them. He also loves the new versions of the books, and R and I are finding that we want to read the whole collection too!
He is just getting into Duplo now too. Between some eBay bulk purchasing on my part and Christmas presents from the Yarra family, he has quite a solid collection of Duplo now. He is starting to build things, and narrate stories about the Duplo characters.
Monsieur also adores our cats, and is looking forward to the day when they start sleeping with him. I think that Shakti will be the one to start, once Monsieur can lie still enough! He loves to snuggle her and is so gentle with patting her.
How I am thinking/feeling.
In just the month (!) since I started writing this, things have changed and I’m not sure that I can really remember what I was feeling a month ago! Just this morning though, I was feeling like we’re having a honeymoon period, Monsieur and I. We have not needed the stroller for outings all month. We have filled January with swimming, cars, trains and trips to both grandparent’s houses. Monsieur has started listening more to me, so I feel like the ongoing fight of each day has gone. I was so exhausted as we approached Christmas – tired of the constant battle to do anything with Limpet around. But poof! That feeling is no more, at least not currently. I have slowed down, learned to breath a bit more, reduced my time on social media and consciously stopped browsing facebook during moments of waiting for Monsieur. Monsieur seems suddenly older and more helpful. The barrier testing is still there, but he lets it go a lot quicker and I feel less impatient with it. This summer has done us the world of good. I hope that I can hang on to this feeling, this patience as daily routine reasserts its place in our lives. This feeling of peace and calm is also due to having my Wednesdays back – last Wednesday I got stuck into organising the pantry, a task which I’d been “in the middle of doing” for two weeks. With just a small space of time to myself to get things done, I am much more patient the rest of the week. Our time is so short and I am treasuring this year ahead of us. In our house; no renovation things to do. Monsieur able to understand so much more and do so much more. I have small, very small twinges of thinking “you’re growing up so fast, I don’t want this time to end”, but mostly I am so excited watching him grow and develop.
So, I started this post Dec 31 and am finishing it Feb 4. I had grand plans of adding in photos, but now I’m just going to publish this before another month skips on by!