I was ‘outed’ at the supermarket today. I use ‘outed’ even though it doesn’t usually apply to me – there doesn’t really seem to be much outing to be had for bis, and I’m so open about my life anyway it’s not an issue. But here, where lesbians fall almost completely below the radar of average person’s awareness, and bisexuality is even lower, there’s not so many people that know where I stand. Hence the double whammy surprise of being asked by the check-out lady if I was bisexual.
It was all innocent enough, she asked if I had a boyfriend, I replied no. Same old, same old. She asked if I didn’t want a Japanese boyfriend (lit. if Japanese boys were bad for me) I replied I didn’t want _any_ boyfriend, Japanese or otherwise. Again, same old, same old. She then asked if I was bisexual. I, somewhat stunned – she didn’t even start by asking if I was a lesbian, it was just straight to bi – replied yes, but that didn’t change matters as I don’t want a girlfriend either.
I’ve always liked this check-out lady as she always talks to me, and sees me as a real person, but now I like her even more! Any Japanese person showing awareness of sexuality issues, or issues outside the box in general, instantly peaks my interest. It is so rare here, but recently I have been coming across the rare more and more.
maybe she’s scoping! 😉